A bit of a rant today.
I hate it when my friends cancel on me.
Don’t get me wrong, I understand when something important comes up. Like having your relatives over for a surprise visit. Or suddenly your mother gets angry with you. Or your dog got hit by a car. Or you have to take your grandpa to the hospital.
And once in a while, it’s okay if you forgot that you had a huge assignment due the next day that you haven’t started, or that you didn’t finish your work in time before our date.
What I don’t like is when you make a date with me, then cancel a few hours before. Then you change your mind and decide you can afford meet me after all. Only when I show up at your door, you’re in your house-clothes and tell me you have too much work to do.
I spent 3 hours making cookies for my friend today for his birthday. He made dinner plans with me, then cancelled while I was halfway through prepping and had already burned my finger – I’m talking red bubbly blistering pain that refuses to be ignored. I was completely bummed out, since another friend (more on her next) had cancelled on me on Friday. So I made plans with angelandthings, but then he said he’d join us. When I showed up at his door to drop off the cookies – there he was in his pajamas, with “too much work to do to go out.”
Okay, that’s not too bad. At least he knew he was leaving me with company. And it’s pretty infrequent. But I did burn myself for him. And delivered to his door after slaving 3 hours. But he receives me in his pajamas. I’m quite disappointed in him.
What’s unacceptable is when my friend (aforementioned girl) makes plans with me and only carries through half the time. When I text her the day of to confirm what time we’re meeting up, I get: “OH SHIT I’m sorry I have something else I need to do.” This is after I’ve already gotten ready to go out. And I hadn’t defrosted anything for dinner.
What?! You make plans with me, make plans over me, and then forget to tell me you’d done so?
And she does this almost every other time we make plans. Which is already quite seldom. Don’t I feel important.
I understand how busy you can get with school. I really, really do. I also seldom have time to hang out. But if I don’t have time for you, I say so. And I don’t make plans with you in the first place. I certainly wouldn’t forget about you.
Miko makes everything better. Because she’s always at home waiting for me. Because she always comes to greet me at the door. Because she likes to be near me and know where I am. Because she makes circles around my legs. Because she knows I feed her, and I’m important because of that. And she dissolves all my anger and resentment.
I think I’m a happier and better person when I have Miko to care for. She soothes my inner turmoil.
Perfectly balanced on the oddest perches.
My grandma says that people who have pets are more caring and considerate, are happier and more satisfied with life, and also have a better psyche. Or even just something to take care of – whether animal, fish, or plant. It gives you peace of mind.
Would you agree?